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Ideas for Gentlemen on what to say to a Bride and Groom

When you go to a wedding the bride and groom get many awkward “good lucks” and “congratulations.” You can stick with that or consider something different. Choose what fits with your style and the style of the bride or groom. Memorize a line you like or make up one of your own and use it the next time you greet a happy couple.

What to say to the Bride

• What a lovely ceremony !

• You make a perfect couple.

Have no fear this is  really not a political post.

I have been thinking about how people know who to believe without doing the original research themselves ?

I remember a quote I read awhile ago that helps me with this question, maybe it will help you.

Recently I was talking with some friends about empathy. They seemed to want to know more. I wondered if my readers felt the same way.   I decided to publish  a selection from my book Behavioral First Aid that I thought you might find helpful.

Empathy is the most effective and important communication skill of all.

Basic empathy has two components. The first component is the ability to “walk in another’s shoes- that is, to understand the experience and feelings of another person in their particular circumstance.  The second component of empathy is the ability to successfully communicate that understanding to the other person.

I am often asked what to say or do to comfort someone who is upset. My answer is always : make an empathic comment. In thinking about it however I decided to give some examples of what not to say.

1.”I know just how you feel, when this happened to me blah, blah, blah.”

2. “Everything will work out for the best.”

3. “It’s time to put it behind you”

4.”You will get through this.”

5. “Thinking about it will just make you more upset.”

6. Attempts to change the subject

I am a great believer in the power of empathy, and view it as number one communication skill.

I really enjoyed this article that theorizes (not proves) that empathy can make people look alike, especially those that love one another.

I wanted to share it with you because it is an uplifting fun to read piece, take a look.

It makes sense to me, any opinions or comments?

In previous posts we talked about communication especially during times of stress.

One of the best ways to encourage communication and calm emotions is with the use of empathy.  Empathy may be called by different names but it follows the same principle.

Learning to make empathic statements is important to anyone who works with people in distress.

• Health Care Workers
•  Emts
• Paramedics
• Police
• Fireman

and even customer service representatives are learning about empathy, it makes their job much easier. It is also helpful in everday life, for everyone.

If  communication between persons is to be successful, helpful, and meaningful, acceptance needs to be part of the process. Acceptance of a person regardless of their situation is crucial for therapeutic communication.  This is especially true when you are trying to communicate with someone who is upset. It is critical for the person to know that you are accepting of them, and will not judge them or what they say.  This makes it possible for them to take a risk and tell you what is really on their mind.  If you are sending judgemental vibs you will not get open honest communication in return. 

We will talk alot on this blog about communication.

 Communication that works is the basis of all successful relationships: family, friends, business and more. Many relationships have been broken due to poor communication and miscommunication. If you are in the helping profession (or even not) and trying to calm someone who is in distress there are many communication techniques that you can use. My book Behavioral First Aid: Managing Emotions During Crisis is built around how to communicate with certain kind of crisis.

Here are 8 quick tips that will help you stay calm, communicate well, and provide psychological or Mental Health First Aid in and emergency or crisis.

Remember the story of the emperor’s new clothes?  Although this is a fairy tale, there are some important principles about human behavior that can be learned from it. One lesson is that if you want to believe something badly enough, you can convince yourself (and others) that it is true. This idea can be used to help you stay calm during a crisis. Here are some tips about making yourself believe in yourself.!  Fake  it till you make it!