Happy 2010, Resolve to Make no New Years Resolutions this Year
December 26, 2009 11:34 pm Mental Health, Miscellaneous
It’s that time of the year where some of us (fewer I hope) make those New Year Resolutions that we often break leaving us feeling like failures. Why is that?? I wonder if it is because we often try to make ourselves into something or someone we are not.
I love this quote from Steve Jobs of Apple.
“Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. ”
In thinking about this I realized that as I have gotten older I am more and more sure of and ok with, who I really am.
But knowing who you really are takes thought and time.
That might be a good New Year non-resolution for 2010, pay attention to knowing myself better. How can I do this you ask?
Here are some ideas I came up with, I am sure you could add many more.
- Spend time alone
- Spend time doing nothing
- Allow thoughts to come, don’t judge them just acknowledge what are they about
- Allow yourself to feel and acknowledge the feelings to yourself. Remember feeling is not behaving.
- Reconize what makes you happy and write it down. It may come as a suprise and may be different then what you had believed would make you happy.
- Recognize what makes you feel angry, frightened, stressed, bored, unhappy. Try and be specific. Allow yourself permission to avoid these things when possible.
- Spend more time with those you enjoy who bring you peace.
- Cut down on your obligation visits.
- If you have already unsuccesfully tried to improve relationships, then give yourself permission to avoid those that make you feel bad or unworthy (even if they are relatives).
- Ask yourself these questions frequently
- What do I really care about?
- What are my basic beliefs and values?
- What would I do if I recieved a diagnosis of a terminal illness, how would it change my behavior?
Fight any feelings of self indulgence or guilt. Remember Self-Awareness is a basic building block of self-esteem, Not selfishness. Further healthy self -esteem allows us to be positive influence in our world.
Mohamed :
Date: December 28, 2009 @ 10:18 am
OK….u r ri8…but remember always that words will remain only words and all things come to an end even our dreams…
I mean that what u said is exactly ri8 and we will know what we want and avoid what annoys us….the problem is: To achieve our goals we must be strong enough and have a great spirit…We should focus alot on our goals so that we don’t see the obstacles…
The problem is not to determine what we want…The problem is ” Are we strong enough to achieve our dreams.”