Are You Stressed By Hidden Angry ?
February 6, 2008 11:57 am Anger, StressMany of us avoid allowing ourselves to feel anger for a variety of reasons.
Our culture teaches us that anger is a bad feeling, perhaps a sign of poor character or even a sin. For these reasons many of us have learned to hide our anger so well we may not even be aware of it ourself.
Hidden anger is often a result of old hurts and many years squashing your feelings
Review this list of symptoms to see if hidden anger may be a problem for you.
- Procrastination
- Being late all the time
- Frequent use of sarcastic or cutting humor
- Smiling when hurt or annoyed
- Frequent nightmares
- Irritability over small matters
- Clenching jaws especially while sleeping
- Grinding teeth
- Habitual movement of feet, or fists
- Depression
- Stomach aches
- Neck stiffness
- Headaches.
Recognizing and freeing yourself of hidden anger can open you up to more joy and peace in your life. Watch for future posts where I will give you some tips on getting rid of old anger that may be holding you back, from really enjoying life.
Shine :
Date: September 14, 2008 @ 10:56 am
I think I am good at letting go but my mother in law just can’t giveme a break and as soon as I get to forgive something she did or say, she is creating and giving me more hell, I know maybe I should just not mind her but I can’t sometimes is hard, I know there will be always something anoying in our life, but what do we need to do, I believe in forgiveness and that is why, but she just come back hurting every time… I don’t know what to do…
Dr. Duffy :
Date: September 26, 2008 @ 6:50 pm
Hi Shine,
Perhaps you need to talk this over with your spouse and get a strategy together. Something like telling you mo-in law that you find her remarks hurtful and if she is unable to stop them you won’t be able to have conversation with her. I would then be polite with only very superficial talk until it gets better. You can actually say to her ” that is a hurtful comment” and walk away. It is keeping it inside that is causing you so much stress.
Good Luck,
Dr. Duffy