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Keep Your Brain Healthy and Young

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This is How Your Brain Ages
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6 Tips to Keep Your Brain Young !

  • Get regular exercise that you enjoy! (every little bit helps)

  • Eat Well ( or at least better)

  • Keep your mind active and stimulated ( easy and fun)

  • Make sure you rest well and sleep enough ( use good sleep hygiene and habits)

  • Practice “Stresslessness” (can be learned!)

  • Engage in social activities that are fun for you  (the best part!)

    Borderline Personality What Does it Mean?

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    Have you ever wondered about the term borderline? It seems to be in frequent use today. In 1953 Knight noted it was being used to describe a condition that was thought to be on the border between psychotic and neurotic disorders. Neurotic was an old term previously used in psychiatry. Persons who were considered neurotic had psychological difficulties but did not exhibit psychotic symptoms such as delusions or hallucinations. The term psychotic is defined as being out of touch with reality, that is, the inability to distinguish internal from external stimuli.
    Because persons with this syndrome could at times look almost psychotic, but not quite, the term borderline came into being. Some symptoms of BPD, including hysteria, dramatization, rage and poor impulse control can appear to be psychotic. Under stress persons who suffer with severe BPD can experience dissociation, a psychotic like symptom of separating mind and emotions from the body. This is often a defense mechanism that people who experience severe trauma use to cope. Persons with BPD often have very traumatic histories of abuse.

    Sources

    Defining Borderline Patients: An Overview. (1975) American Journal of Psychiatry.Jan. 132:1, 1-10

    10 Incredible Health Benefits of Laughter

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    Research into mind-body interventions, including humor as therapy, continues to reveal a surprising number of health benefits. In a culture that perpetuates the use of drugs to address nearly all ailments, no matter how serious or benign, many consumers are turning to so-called alternative medicines and therapies to nurture their physical and mental well-being. Laughter is one such medicine. Many professionals in the medical community consider laughter to be an effective tool for promoting good health and fighting disease. Here are 10 researched and documented health benefits of laughter.

    Reduces stress hormones

    When people laugh heartily and deeply, the physical exertion causes the body to release endorphins, one of the complex neuropeptide chemicals produced in the brain. Endorphins combat the excessive production of cortisol, a hormone your body releases when you experience physical, emotional, or mental stress. Too much cortisol over time can increase the appetite, as well as the risk of stroke and other life-threatening cardiovascular conditions. Consistent laughter effectively lowers the level of cortisol and other stress hormones in your blood, keeping your body in balance.
    Strengthens the immune system

    Stress, especially the physical and emotional stress endured by patients undergoing treatment for cancer, can decrease the body’s resistance to disease, preventing the production of a type of white blood cell that attacks cancer cells. Studies show laughter not only reduces stress it also stimulates disease-fighting changes in the body, including the production of cancer-attacking white blood cells.
    It promotes good mental health

    With so many drug companies claiming to produce drugs that will alleviate depression, so long as the user doesn’t mind lots of unpleasant side effects and health risks, the mental health community is considering laughter therapy as a safer, much less expensive means for combating mental illness. Studies show that people who use humor to address stress are likely to feel less lonely and maintain a healthy level of self-esteem. More surprisingly, some studies have concluded that humor therapy is as effective as widely used antipsychotic drugs in the treatment of patients suffering from depression.
    It burns calories

    After spending an evening at a comedy club or watching a good episode of Saturday Night Live, you might feel as if you just worked out at the gym. That’s because the effects of laughter and exercise are very similar. A researcher at Vanderbilt University conducted a study measuring the amount of calories burned while laughing, which turned out to be 50 after 10 to 15 minutes of laughter. And just like physical exercise, laughter increases your heart rate and blood circulation.
    It manages pain

    Endorphins, in addition to making a person feel pleasant, help to manage pain. Laughter in the form of clown therapy, like that seen in the popular film based on the life and work of Dr. Patch Adams, is used in hospitals to help children cope with the pain of treatments like chemotherapy.

    It manages anger

    Laughing can reduce tension, eliminate a perceived threat, and open up lines of communication between people, all of which help to diffuse unhealthy levels of irrational anger. Laughter decreases compounds released by the body that create feelings of hostility, anger, and anxiety. Laughing at something that has made you angry can help you regain your perspective as to the relative importance of what might be a petty slight or minor inconvenience.
    It promotes and strengthens interpersonal relationships

    Psychology Today reports that laughter has the capacity to restore and build couples’ relationships. Laughing not only brings large groups together, it creates and strengthens a connection between two people, showing they truly enjoy each other’s company. For laughter to be beneficial to a relationship, it doesn’t need to be the kind that makes one’s nose run and eyes tear up. Just a little bit of laughter can sync up, if only for a few moments, the hearts and minds of two people.
    It’s good for the soul

    Western and Eastern religions both know the value of laughter. Many proverbs and zen teachings utilize humor to instruct and enlighten. In one such Zen story, a student asks a Zen master, “What is Zen?” As a response, the master takes off one of his sandals, puts it on his head, and walks away. OK, maybe you had to be there. But consider this from Proverbs 17:22: “A joyful heart is good medicine, but a crushed spirit dries up the bones.”

    It’s great for kids

    Studies show that children laugh an average of 100 to 200 — some say 400 — times a day. Adults on the other hand average about 15 laughs a day. Given all of that daily laughter, what is it kids know that adults don’t? This year, researchers at the Stanford University School of Medicine are determining which areas of a child’s brain are activated by humor in an effort to see if laughter promotes emotional and mental health. One Stanford researcher says, “We think a balanced and consistent sense of humor may help children negotiate the difficult period of pre-adolescence and adolescence.”

    It stimulates creativity

    Studies including one at Johns Hopkins University Medical School, show that laughter improves alertness, memory, and creativity. One explanation for this is that humor, like creativity, connects the right and left hemispheres of the brain, engaging the entire organ and creating a pleasant physical and emotional response. Humor can stimulate creativity by upending your preconceptions, allowing you to approach a creative challenge with a fresh perspective — once you stop laughing of course!

    Cheating Man Fears Girlfriend is Cheating on Him!

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    Hi.

    I am in a real mess. Married. I have been having a secret relationship with a single woman who thinks I am single.

    My wife’s name is Mary; the other woman is Sue. I see Sue about 4 days/month

    Recently Sue is expressing interest in a man who quite clearly wants a relationship with her (I have seen e mails between them).

    The thing is, despite what I am doing behind my wife’s back, I am having terrible trouble controlling my feelings. Sue has kept it a secret & I wouldn’t have known if I hadn’t seen some e mails

    He put his phone number in one of the mails. I rang it pretending to be someone else to obtain his name. When I tackle Sue about any aspect of this, she very quickly loses her temper & says if you don’t trust me, go. She claims not to have had sex with him, just likes his company. I think looking at the way he wrote in e mails, he is after her for sex.

    Sue probably wouldn’t be unfaithful so I don’t know why I am behaving the way I am, just can’t sleep well, can’t eat, thinking about this nasty man taking over my relationship

    In one argument about this man, when I asked why she hadn’t told me about him, she said ‘I don’t have to tell you everything’

    Please help me. don’t know why my mind behaves like this, I have no right to treat my wife or Sue, like this, & equally have no right to be upset if Sue is seeing someone else because that’s exactly what I am doing to her anyway any advice welcomed

    Joe

    Dear Joe,

    I think your last paragraph says it all. You really have no rights here and you sound
    like you may be somewhat obsessed. I do not know your history but would guess you have
    many things to look at and need to do a lot of introspection to understand yourself better. You should really consider
    seeing a therapist to figure out what is going on with you. You may have some symptoms of
    clinical depression which should also be evaluated.

    Good luck,

    Dr. Duffy

    Do Antidepressants Really Work?

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    A recent “60 Minute” program  discussing research indicating  antidepressants are not effective in the treatment of depression again raises this thorny issue.

    This is an issue that I have had strong feelings about for some time.  As someone in the Psychiatric field I have worked with depressed people for over 30 years and have no questions in my mind that antidepressants work when used properly,  with the right patients.  Not only do they work, but they are in fact  lifesaving  at times and also life giving  for many who have lived years in psychic pain.  This is not something I say casually  but based on my years of experience working with those suffering from this illness.  So whats wrong with the research why does it indicate antidepressants don’t help ?  Is this actually what is says?  Let me give you my take on this.

    First if you notice, most of the research states that it is   mild to moderate depression that  is not helped by antidepressants. Moderate to severe depression is usually found to be at least partially relieved by antidepressants. The reason for this appears fairly obvious to me.  Each study uses different tests and ratings to determine the difference between mild and moderate and moderate and severe depression.   (This information can be found in the original research report.)  However mild depression is  not  “clinical depression”.  Mild depression is often  grief, loss,  and sadness due to environmental factors. Antidepressants are for the most part to be used for clinical depressions, despite the fact that pharmaceutical companies have pushed for their use in many other circumstances.  (By the way “depression tests” are for the most part  self reports which as far as I am concerned bring their results into question .)

    So the major problem seems to me to be in the misdiagnosis of depression and the overuse of antidepressants.  I agree that antidepressants are significantly overused, often all a person needs to say to their prescriber is “I’m depressed” and the antidepressant is offered.   Such patients likely will not respond to antidepressants because they are not clinically depressed in the first place.  In my work I have found that many people who are depressed do not even describe themselves as so. In addition the literature is clear that most depressed people who go to their  primary care provider complain of physical ailments not depression.

    Just to clarify, “clinical depression” is usually  the ” moderate to severe” type  ( terms from the research)  that presents with  multiple physical  symptoms in addition to mood changes.  This is the type of depression that responds to antidepressants. The literature supports the fact that most people with clinical depression go untreated!!  The population being treated to often with antidepressants are not the clinically depressed folks.

    Depression is not something easy to explain because everyone thinks they know what it means.   If you have not been clinically depressed or worked or lived with a person(s)  who has this painful condition,  I believe it is probably difficult if not impossible to  imagine how painful it really is.

    For those who have experience with this issue please comment!

    10 Tips On Being Alone and Happy on Valentine’s Day

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    Valentines Day can be one of the worst days of the year if you want a relationship but don’t have one.

    So what can you do to feel better?

    Here are 10 Ideas to Help you get Through the Day.

    1. Stay up the night before and work then you can sleep the following day away.

    2. Go to a movie about bad relationships. (How about fatal attraction).

    3. Spend time with a couple who is always bickering. Go sit in divorce court for the day (or watch Judge Judy.)

    4. Watch / read health reports on Sexually transmitted diseases.

    5. Spend time with a friend bashing the opposite sex.

    6. Think about your worst relationship and all the terrible things that were done to you.

    7. Remember the divorce rate is over 50%

    8. Contemplate that solitude is better then a bad relationship.

    9. Here’s one especially for the women: remember single women live longer then married ones.

    10. Read a book about being happy as a single.

    Non-Resolutions for 2012

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    Happiness and Peace in 2012 !

    I posted this last year, have made a few changes  hopefully from the wisdom I have gained (some of it painfully) from living 2011.  I am glad to say I have been easier on myself this year, and will be more so next year.   You? It’s that time of the year where some of us (fewer I hope) make those New Year Resolutions that we often break leaving us feeling like failures. Why is that?? I wonder if it is because we often try to make ourselves into something or someone we are not.  Someone or something we think is better, smarter, prettier, more handsome, you get the idea. Better to recognize our faults yes, but ALSO to recognize our attributes,  gifts and goodness. I love this quote from Steve Jobs of Apple. “Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. ” In thinking about this I realized  that to live your own life you must  know who you are, accept who you are,  and  not only approve of it,  but be proud of it.   As I have gotten older I am more and more sure of and ok with, who I really am. But knowing who you really are takes thought and time. That might be a good New Year non-resolution for 2012, pay attention to knowing yourself better.  How can I do this you ask? Here are some ideas I came up with, I am sure you could add many more.

    • Spend time alone, learn to appreciate solitude.
    • Spend time doing nothing, but being with yourself and your thoughts.
    • Allow thoughts to come, don’t judge them just acknowledge what are they about
    • Allow yourself to feel and acknowledge the feelings to yourself. Remember feeling is not behaving.
    • Recognize what makes you happy and write it down. It may come as a surprise and may be different then what you had believed would make you happy.
    • Recognize what makes you proud.
    • Recognize what makes you feel angry, frightened, stressed, bored, unhappy. Try and be specific. Allow yourself permission to avoid these things when possible.
    • Spend more time with those you enjoy who bring you peace.
    • Cut down on your obligation visits.
    • Visit those you really want to spend time with.
    • If you have already unsucessfully tried to improve relationships, then give yourself permission to end them or avoid those that make you feel bad or unworthy (even if they are relatives).
    • Ask yourself these questions frequently
    1. What do I really care about?
    2. What are my basic beliefs and values?
    3. What would I do if I received a diagnosis of a terminal illness, how would it change my behavior?
    • Fight any feelings of self indulgence or guilt.
    • Allow yourself mistakes.
    • Forgive yourself for those mistakes.
    • Remember Self-Awareness is a basic building block of self-esteem, not selfishness.  Further healthy self -esteem allows us to be positive influence in our world.
    • Pamper yourself with simple gifts.  I have started using a lavender pillow at night that was given to me by someone special. It is so soothing and comforting.
    • Volunteer more,  be more green,  spend money wisely,  it all feels so good.
    • Pay attention to you spiritual needs.

    Sexual Fantasies

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    Questions and Answers : Sexual Fantasies

    Dear Doctor

    I have a serious problem of  depression.

    In the past I had rape fantasies during masturbation. But now I am not at all thinking

    about that.   I  avoid all such bad fantasies. Now  the problem is I love a girl.    I feel bad

    and guilty about my former fantasies.   Am I a bad person? Am I deceiving my girl whom I

    Thanks, Joe

    Dear Joe,

    Of  course you are not a bad person!

    Sexual fantasies even  those of rape are very common. This type of fantasy is actually more

    common in women. As long as this fantasy is limited to the bedroom and is not something

    you would consider in real life you have nothing to worry about.

    The research in this area of male sexual fantasies is much more limited then the female

    fantasies of being raped.

    It is really more a matter of who’s in charge and power and control then of violent sex.

    You also might want to discuss this with the women you love. Go slowly with this and see

    her reaction. I presume you and she are able to discuss serious matters and you know how

    she  views certain topics.

    There is lots of information at the link below for the Kinsey Institute of Sexuality. Take a

    look.

    Which Omega 3 fatty Acid Works Best for Depression

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    Feed your brain!

    Use of Omega 3 fatty acids for depression is not new. Recent research seem to  define more clearly what exactly is needed in terms of amount and type of fatty acids for best brain function. One study found supplements containing EPA ≥ 60% of total EPA + DHA, in a dose range of 200 to 2,200 mg/d of EPA in excess of DHA, was effective against depression.

    Many now believe that EPA is the fatty acid primarily responsible for the profound effect on mood and brain functioning and not DHA as once was thought.

    See the full article here.

    article.psychiatrist.com/dao_1-login.asp?ID=10007567&RSID=77926331442391

    Girlfriend Refuses Help for BiPolar

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    Hello Dr Duffy,
    My  live in girlfriend is bipolar and currently in her fourth manic episode this year and

    she sometimes does dangerous things and is self destructive. She refuses all help.

    She needs to be under observation and care, but will not go willingly. What can I do?

    Tired

    Dear Tired,
    This is a very difficult situation.

    If she is  truly manic and does something dangerous or threatening you may call the
    police to have her forced in to emergency room for an evaluation. This of course is a
    last resort because it can be hard on your relationship and depends on the laws in your
    state. It also can be arbitrary because most police do not like to interfere unless the person is obviously impaired.

    The other issue is how are you dealing with this? Have you made it clear to her that she
    needs help and unless she gets it she is putting your relationship in jeopardy?  You probably need to play “hard ball” with her for her own sake and yours. If there are children involved she could also loose parental rights.  I know this sound harsh but sometimes it is the only way you can get someone to accept help.

    Do not make any threats that you cant follow through with. Give her specifics, such as if
    you do not get help within in 2 months (or whatever) you will force me to leave as I can
    not live with this. Reminder her as the time goes by and you must follow through! Only do this if you are really ready and are confident you can follow through.

    You must think of yourself and any children. You are also not helping her by shoring her
    up. There is a belief that each manic episode makes the disorder worse and the times
    between cycles less.

    Best of luck,  Dr. Duffy

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